Victim of your own thoughts !!!

August 30, 2009

Friends call him a live cricket encyclopedia. And why not, Shimu is a die hard cricket fan. Today is the day he was waiting for a long time. India v/s Australia final. After witnessing India’s bowling performance in the first half, Shimu was quite sure India will be lifting up the cup.

While watching the Indian batting in the middle overs, he left his seat to grab a cuppa of coffee. When he returned back, to his dismay, he noticed India lost a key wicket. “Look at those crazy fellows, one good chance they have got to beat Aussies and they are fucking it up.” He said angrily to himself. This sequence continued a couple of times. 

Every time he left his seat, India lost a wicket. He got desperate and fear of losing started grappling his mind. He decided not to leave his seat until the match gets over. With more ups and downs, however without losing any wicket, India won the game. Shimu was probably the happiest man in the world; however, he became a victim of one of the most incomprehensible phenomenon of the world. 

Any idea what am I talking about here? Well this phenomenon is called Superstition, which has gripped millions of people around the world centuries after centuries and has forced them to believe in something which can never be explained using normal equations of cause and effect.

Most superstitions are usually harmless. Wearing your lucky shirt, lucky tie on the day of your interview and writing an exam with a lucky pen. So, what exactly is the problem with being superstitious? Superstition is so powerful that it leads you to attribute your successes to something outside yourself. This essentially means that you are held back from unleashing your own inner strengths and abilities. Loss of confidence. 

First problem!!! Even if something negative happens one is not going to attribute the failure of the outcome to the superstition. The person will start blaming other factors and not the superstition. One never kills his superstition and because of this, the pile of superstition keeps on increasing and then we graciously pass the baggage to our children who follow these superstitions blindly. Second problem!!!

Well, these little rituals of magic are so much part of our culture that we do not question, forget questioning, we don't even notice. Don’t let superstition rule your mind and wreck your life. Instead, try hard to overcome your fears by increasing your confidence, inspiring authority in your decisions and trust in your actions. You will then realize and enjoy the person who is truly you and not someone like Shimu.

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Untitled !!!

August 25, 2009

Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though, being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.

In one of the stories of Times of India, I have read about a man who sits in his rocking chair nursing a scotch every evening when the dusk sets in, listening to an old Mohd. Rafi's song ...
Dekhi zamaane ki yaari, bichde sabhi baari his calm surrounding with a sense of peace and a day well spent. No broken hearts here, but a man unwinding after a day at work. His book lying next to his pillow, the way he left it last night and a collection of around 2500 DVDs to choose from.

On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any man.

Both the stories make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it? 

A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or freedom. Living our life to the fullest and wishing to make every dream come true, and the best of our existence.

I remember how I reacted after reading a statement (There's nothing called ideal match) on a fellow blogger's blog today. I got offended and told him I did not like the statement, but now I wonder only if he was all wrong. A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life. 

Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, travelling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship. Is it really necessary to have a partner for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leave no space for one's other half.

A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes, people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spend your whole life with.

Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life, there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our lives in helping those in need, those who have nothing. Isn't someone who cares and loves people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with their life?

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I Have Learned From Life !!!

August 18, 2009

It's a weird weird life. when you expect so much, it gives you a little and when you sit down with zero hope, it provides more than you have wished for. Though I am just 21 yrs and not old enough to explain what to expect from this unexpected life. But there are few things I have learned that I would love to share

  • Lord Buddha said, 'We achieve peace through meditation' yet I have learned, the most beautiful and peace giving thing in the world is to watch a little child asleep.
  • Share everything you want to in life with friends and with people you care for but never trust someone who says, 'trust me I can keep this secret.'
  • No matter how rich we become, we can never buy what really matters in life.
  • Sometimes crying is best response.
  • There will always be someone in your life who annoys you no matter where you are and you will love it eventually and miss them when they are not there.
  • Usually, it's better to shut up but sometimes it's necessary to argue.
  • Believe me on this one - it's not worth a calorie until n unless it is a CHOCOLATe :).
  • Though many people believe that you are what you wear or what your shoes tells about you but I have learned- Do not judge a book by its cover. 
  • Well, I am always in trouble because of honesty but I still believe honesty can solve any problem.
  • May be we should never let go of our deepest desire. But I have learned- letting go is the only way to keep something or someone in life.
  • It's good to be yourself and maintain your dignity. But I have learned - The word 'WE' always sounds better than the word 'I'.
  • We will always come across many intolerable people but there's still a difference between being angry and being cruel.
  • One thing I wish I have learned when I was 8 yrs is that - I wish I could have told my dad that I love him more time, before he passed away.
Two things I have learned in my TEENS :
  • Never be close friends with your best friend's boyfriend. Her boyfriend might start liking you and that can create problems in relationships (examples better hidden :P).
  • And finally - I am sure you all will agree on this one - Just do not expect your money back if you have lend it to a close friend... Friends will be friends :) 

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August 14, 2009



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Taggy Taggy Shaggy !!!

I am tagged again by Shankar...n... Since my name also starts with 'S' and Shankar wrote all the interesting answers n even after my request Shankar did not allow me to cheat ...It's going to be difficult huh...
Tag Rules: It’s harder than it looks!(Mind It). Copy to your own note, erase my answers, enter yours, and tag your friends. Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions. They have to be real… nothing made up! If the person before you had the same first initial, you must use different answers. You cannot use any word twice and you can’t use your name for the boy/girl name question. Have Fun!!

1. What is your name: Suga.
2. A four Letter Word: Sexy.. lols:P
3. A boy’s Name: Subramanyamyannaillepille.
4. A girl’s Name: Shobajoytianna.
5. An occupation: Sugarcane Collector(:P).
6. A colour: Sea Green.
7. Something you wear: Smile.
8. A food: Spaghetti noodles.
9. Something found in the bathroom: Salt (I am talking about my bathroom here :P).
10. A place: Sky.
11. A reason for being late: Sleeping (now that's a truth).
12. Something you shout: Sucks man!!!
13. A movie title: Serendipity.
14. Something you drink: Shake (yummm).
15. A musical group: Snoozers ( aww now this is made up... did I break the rule :P).
16. An animal: Spinosaurus.
17. A Street name: Silent Street.
18. A type of car: Stanguellini ( Red) Front Angle model ( Cute n Pretty).
19. A song title: Sand In Your Shoes by Al Stewart.
20. A verb: Shiver.
I am tagging: A blog named Obsessions.

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Tagged !!!

August 12, 2009

Got another tag from my creative blogger friend PRA (….and the name of this tag is Jhatpat Tag :P ...

1. Grab the book nearest to you, turn on page 18 and find line 4.
  • The line says " how was your afternoon?" from the book Eclipse by Stephenie Meyer.
2. Stretch your left arm out as far as you can & catch air?
  • My Stress Ball !!!
3. What is the last thing you watched on T. V. ?
  • How I met your mother 
4. Without looking, guess what time it is?
  • 9 P.M.
5. Now look at the clock, what is the actual time?
  • It is 9:09 P.M.
6. With the exception of the computer, what can you hear?
  • My mom calling me for dinner for the fifth time...
7. When did you last step outside? What were you doing?
  • I was out for a an evening walk...
8. Before you started this Q&As, what did you look at?
  • My computer screen :D
9. When did you last laugh?
  • Now
10. What is on the walls of the room you are in?
  • A.C.. My Vision Wall ...Wall Clock... Candle Stands... and some posters
12. Seen anything weird lately?
  • Rakhi Sawant on NDTV Imagine :D
13. What do you think of this quiz?
  • Useless!!!
14. What is the last film you saw?
  • Come September
15. If you became a multimillionaire overnight, what would you buy?
  •  I will travel
16. Tell me something about you that I dunno!
  • I can talk fluently and flawlessly!!!
17. If you could change one thing about the world, regardless of guilt or politics, what would you do?
  • A world without religion would be nice :)
18. Do you like to Dance?
  • I love to
19. Imagine your first child is a girl, what do you call her?
  • Honey - Bunny :D
20. Imagine your first child is a boy, what do you call him?
  • Junior
21. Would you ever consider living abroad?
  • Yeah

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Read It Till The End!!!

A father passing by his daughter's bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was neat & tidy. He suddenly saw an envelope propped up on the center of the pillow. It was addressed "Dad"
with the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter:

Dear Dad,

It is with great regret & sorrow that I'm writing you, but I'm leaving home.I had to elope with my new boyfriend Tory because I wanted to avoid a scene with Mom & you. I've been finding real passion with Tory & he is so nice to me. I know when you meet him you'll like him too -even with all his piercing, tattoos, & motorcycle clothes. But it's not only the passion Dad, I'm pregnant and Tory said that he wants me to have the kid & that we'll be very happy together. Even though Tory is much older than I am (but,40 isn't so old these days... is it?), and has no money, really these things shouldn't stand in the way of our relationship, don't you agree?
Tory has a great CD collection; he already owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. It's true he has other girlfriends as well but I know he'll be faithful to me in his own way. Tory taught me that marijuana doesn't really hurt anyone and he'll be growing it for us and we'll trade it with our friends for all the cocaine and ecstasy we want. In the meantime, we'll pray that science will find a cure for AIDS so that Tory can be cured; he sure deserves a long life!!
Don't worry Dad, I'm 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I'm sure we'll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.
Your loving daughter,
At the bottom of the page were the letters 'PTO',
Hands trembling, her father turned the sheet, and read:

P. S: Dad, none of the above is true.
I'm over at the
neighbor's house.I just wanted to remind you that there are worse
things in life than my report card that's in my desk's center drawer.
Please sign it and call when it is safe for me
to come home. I love you !!

(courtesy : A forwarded e mail from a friend)

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Life Is a Bubble

August 09, 2009

Life is full of bubbles. Millions of bubbles. BIG bubbles. SMALL bubbles. These bubbles float around us. We can't see them. They are microscopic. They are at the alpha level of the mind.

 Each bubble contains a dream, an idea, a wish, a desire. Once in a while a bubble floats into the conscious state of the mind. The bubble grows. Bigger and bigger. Day after day. When it reaches its optimum level, its all we can think about. Day and night. 

All you want in life is that little dream inside the bubble to come true. And once that wish takes over your mind-body-soul, the bubble BURSTS. Just like that. Just as inconspicuously as it had surfaced in the first place. For a second you're paralyzed, not realizing what has happened.

 You don't know what to do, where to go. Your heart breaks. Your mind freezes. Your soul cries.

Time passes. And then slowly another bubble floats into the conscious state of the mind. This one too grows bigger and bigger, day after day........until.......

Life becomes a full circle.

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Miracles Happen, Just Believe!!!

August 07, 2009

Though, I do not intend to write about miracles here, but this is what happens when you wake up at 2 A.M. with so much in your heart and with the most beautiful dream you have ever seen. They say, " Miraculous moments of life can be found in the simplest way, in the chirping of the birds, innocent smile of a new born or a rainbow".

'The sky knows when its time to snow
You don't need to teach a seed to grow
It's just another ordinary miracle today...'

When I first heard this song by Sarah Mclachlan... I just smiled... and that is when I realised what Einstein meant when he wrote " There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle" or what Paulo Coelho wanted to convey through Santiago in The Alchemist or the meaning of the famous Chinese saying "Be careful what you wish for, because you might just get it".

Have you ever used the phrase- It was destined to me or accidentally discovered something fortunate while looking for something else or just decided to let go of the most precious thing to test your destiny.Isn't it strange when you have prayed for a specific purpose and the prayer is answered, when there's no earthly reason something wonderful has happened, or when all hopes are gone and an opportunity arrives out of nowhere and leave you amazed.

 Miracles happen to everyone everyday, however most people do not see miracles because they are simply not looking for them. In fact, I guess to live at all is a miracle enough. It might sound like a Fairy Tale or may be a few words from some school kid, but miracles do happen to those who believe in them. Moments and miracles are everywhere, just look around and do not just believe in miracles - depend on them.

Isn't it remarkable?
Like every time a raindrop falls

It's just another ordinary miracle today

Birds in winter have their fling

And always make it home by springIt's just another ordinary miracle todayWhen you wake up everydayPlease don't throw your dreams awayHold them close to your heart
we are all a part of
The Ordinary Miracle...

And with the music of these beautiful lines by Sarah Mclachlan, I think I want to sleep a little more as it's just 2:30 A.M. and I wish to see the same dream and who knows it might just come true and turns into another ordinary miracle :)

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August 02, 2009

Hey I have been tagged by two really creative bloggers DREAMERGURL and SRIVATSAN...It's kinda fun and as I am very much allowed to add and subtract the categories, I have decided to experiment .. Hope you all like it ... And thanks so much Sri and dreamergurl :) ... here comes the tag!!!

I Rule, You Rule, We Rule
The idea is, to list five items in each category and not necessarily in order of liking. You can always add or subtract categories according to your will. Then tag five lovely people to be the next ones to take this quiz.

Favorite Words:

  • Interesting: This is one word that makes me excited. Anything that comes under the category turns me on :P
  • Words: There is so much in my heart I express through words and also my blog is still alive because of words :)
  • Mysterious: This word is full of all hidden mysteries. Kinda difficult to explain.
  • Obsession: Too obsessed with obsession. This word puts all my crazy thoughts in a single bucket.
  • Miracle: Einstein wrote, "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." I prefer the latter one.

Favorite characters (Fiction) :
  • Duchess from The Duchess of Malfi : This bold character describes that a women has liberty in this 'so called' men's world.
  • Santiago from The Alchemist : This character made me realize  it is never silly to chase your dreams.
  • Mr. Darcy from Pride and Prejudice : After reading the book I have decided...I am not gonna settle down in life for anyone less than MR. Darcy.
  • Gopal from The Inscrutable Americans : His innocence will take your heart away for sure.

Words They Must Ban :
  • LOLS: Though I myself use this word a lot. But its kinda sucks. Every time when we have nothing to say we LOL, and it annoys me a lot. 
  • Etc. : This is the most complicated word I have ever read. It seems like an alternate for knowledge. When you have nothing in mind say etc etc.
  • Blah Blah : Now this word has no real reason to survive. It cuts all the details and the poor sentence becomes dull.
  • Loser: This word is the biggest loser in itself and those who use it for others are big time losers too.
  • Wateva : Attitude without personality is what this word is all about.

Favorite One Liners :

  • Less is more, when more is too much.
  • Well behaved women seldom make history.
  • Reality is a nice place , but I would not want to live there.
  • A clean room is a sign of a broken computer.
  • Never get in fight with ugly people, they have nothing to lose.

And five creative chosen ones are :)1. Amit and his romantic blog : Hopeless Romantic2. Lovesick from the blog : Obsessions

3. Ramblings of Subhayan in : Wrahoolz Wramblingz

4. Angie from the blog : Rehab Reject

5. Opinions of Bharathi from: The Naked Opinion.

Have fun ... reply soon ... :) cheers!!!

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