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August 25, 2009

Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though, being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.

In one of the stories of Times of India, I have read about a man who sits in his rocking chair nursing a scotch every evening when the dusk sets in, listening to an old Mohd. Rafi's song ...
Dekhi zamaane ki yaari, bichde sabhi baari baari...in his calm surrounding with a sense of peace and a day well spent. No broken hearts here, but a man unwinding after a day at work. His book lying next to his pillow, the way he left it last night and a collection of around 2500 DVDs to choose from.


On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any man.


Both the stories make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it? 


A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or freedom. Living our life to the fullest and wishing to make every dream come true, and the best of our existence.


I remember how I reacted after reading a statement (There's nothing called ideal match) on a fellow blogger's blog today. I got offended and told him I did not like the statement, but now I wonder only if he was all wrong. A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life. 


Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, travelling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship. Is it really necessary to have a partner for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leave no space for one's other half.


A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes, people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spend your whole life with.


Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life, there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our lives in helping those in need, those who have nothing. Isn't someone who cares and loves people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with their life?


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79 Comments: to “ Untitled !!!

  • scarlet pimpernel
    August 25, 2009 at 8:12 PM  

    A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle
    :-)
    Some people are ok being single
    Some people are not
    Simple

  • Bharathi
    August 25, 2009 at 8:37 PM  

    It doesnt matter if you agree with me or not. You became very thinking and I am happy about that. It will take you to new heights. All the best.

  • Sreya
    August 25, 2009 at 10:07 PM  

    I agree with you completely. :)
    It is better to be single than be with the wrong person!
    And if it isn't that ideal person, why make your own life miserable?
    There's all the difference in the world between being single and being lonely.

    Cheers! :)

  • Sumit
    August 25, 2009 at 10:37 PM  

    Interesting thought, actually!

    Though, I've always believed that one needs some sort of an emotional anchor in life. However, that need not be a partner as such - could be friends, family, or a loved one...

  • rahul
    August 25, 2009 at 11:38 PM  

    really well written..there's a huge difference between being lonely and alone..sadly people often use one for the other!!

  • Abby Kihano
    August 26, 2009 at 12:18 AM  

    i like your approach on the single and lonely. i agree with you about everything you say here. sometimes, single people are definitely one of the happiest!

    and it's true. sometimes, i wonder what life would be like living all by myself. coming home to no one but my home would be filled with warm spirits. like a good old tv show, or reading a book while seeping a cup of tea. i mean isn't that nice?

  • Yellow Tulip
    August 26, 2009 at 12:58 AM  

    i totally agree with u..:)..sometime no matter hw bonding u do..hw special n close u r to someone...if the other really doesnt value r doubt it...we again end up questioning wat were we doin?!!..its like chasing a ghost..

    life becomes worthless...

    so i think bein true to self..n living life to the fullest is possible even when we lead our life on our own..n its far better than living in some hope tat we'll find the one!!..

  • Amit414@IT-BHU
    August 26, 2009 at 1:28 AM  

    Wonderful post.. :)

    I do agree with that a single person has more liberty to choose as many friends as he wish Or there are many things like hobbies, music, interest that can feel the emptiness of one's life.

    But with few exception, I feel one does not even know how to enjoy his freedom.He is never prepared to accept that a hobby, music can be their companion for whole life. Choosing a companion and living with entire life in the day to day schedule fills his aloneness. This is nature's arrangement that will never make a man or women independent otherwise how will creation continue.

    cheers!!

  • Nitin
    August 26, 2009 at 2:40 AM  

    lovely.... lot of things to ponder upon..

  • Nitin
    August 26, 2009 at 2:44 AM  

    lovely... lot of things to ponder upon...

  • Leo
    August 26, 2009 at 3:30 AM  

    very thought provoking post Suga! :)

  • Americanising Desi
    August 26, 2009 at 3:37 AM  

    for me it is necessary to have a partner to help operate better.

    i m not too much of a social person and i believe with a partner i have what it takes to perform better.

    something to do with chemistry and physics and maybe biology too :)

    but yea crazy me is lonely right now, cuz i m single :)

  • Shankar
    August 26, 2009 at 4:12 AM  

    you are correct....being lonely and being alone are different..very different...

    Being single is better... freedom is most important thing.. and my experiences says that freedom is totally lost when you are committed...

    But "there is nothing called Ideal match".. why you felt offended with this statement?

  • BK Chowla
    August 26, 2009 at 5:15 AM  

    Single or lonely.It is a subject on which one can have an opinion but each one is in a situation depending upon circumstances,social,economic and thus justifies the status one is in.There is no fixes formula.So long as one is happy with what one is doing,it should be fine.

  • Kaka
    August 26, 2009 at 5:26 AM  

    nice thoughts suga..:)...earlier i always felt left out but now i like being left out...i am enjoying being single not in a realtionship kind of way but friendship and other things....as far as realtionship goes you r right better with the right person even though we have to wait for it...:)

  • dirt clustit
    August 26, 2009 at 5:32 AM  

    It's not too lengthy at all. The way you ended your post was a little disturbing though.... (just kidding)
    have a good day!

  • HaRy!!
    August 26, 2009 at 6:09 AM  

    hmm rather an interesting blog indeed.... it all depends on the person's attitude, i'd say that how the person is brought up matters a log being lone or together.. At least am happy being lone , i do have so much time for myself and can do what i wish... but i tend to bias my statement as well, bcos know a couple of my frnds who are bliss ... nice write up! :) really enjoyed reading it...hope to cya around..tak care

    H a R y

  • f8hasit
    August 26, 2009 at 6:11 AM  

    Thought provoking.

    Just recently split up (again) from my boyfriend, I'm finding that this time around I feel more centered, if you will. I'm enjoying my time. Because that is what it is...MY time. I'm not melding my schedule to fit the needs of someone else. And I like it.

    I think it is all in personal perpective. I didn't think I wanted to be 'alone' so I put up with all this sh*t in fear of being alone. I just didn't have the right mindset.

    Love the post. I needed to read that. Today.
    Thanks!
    :-)

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 6:45 AM  

    @ Scarlet : haha ... well I agree ... its one's perspective ... bt wat I meant to say is ... its oki to be single n enjoy life ... u dont really need smeone to support you ...both in case of man n woman

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 6:51 AM  

    @ Bharathi : Thanksy :)
    happy blogging :)


    @ Sreya : thanks so much Sreya for appreciating :)
    i am really happy :)

    @ Sumit : Ya thts exactly I wana convey thru this post ..if u do not have a life partner doesnt mean ur lonely :)

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 6:55 AM  

    @ Rahul : Thanksy :) for appreciation :)



    @ Abby : Well ... I guess tht wud be fun :)


    @ Yellow : you summarise the whole post in such short n nicely put in words ... thanks ... thts exactly wat I wanted to convey :)

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 6:57 AM  

    @ Amit : well I agree to some extent ... bt we are talkin abt person to person here ... like if u wan be single n alone n u know u can enjoy it ... u shud du it ... widot ne fear :)

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 7:03 AM  

    @ Nitin & @ Leo : Thanks so much for appreciating :)
    happy blogging :)



    @Americanising : I agree wid you ... not everyone can be alone n happy ... it differs frm person to person ... bt ya u mite be single at the moment bt not lonely ... u are alone which is momentary ... cheers!!!

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 7:07 AM  

    @ Shanksr : haha ... well ...m sure u have heard the fairy tale dream world concept... u being a simple girl n sme day u meet ur prince charming ... well thts the reason y i was offended by the statement ... bt I guess on a practical basis ... Bharathi was right !!!

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 7:12 AM  

    @ B.K. Chowla : yup I agree its the circumstances ... the prob i have here is the society tht kinda forces one to get married after a certain age ... which is a prob.


    @ Kaka : thanksy so much for appreciating :)
    may god bless ya wid all the happiness !!! n btw ... tht funny argument on Saad's status was fun ... haha :P

  • Indian Pundit
    August 26, 2009 at 7:26 AM  

    Brilliant Post Suga.

    ""Isn't someone who care and love people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with his life?""

    Yeah i completely agree. There is NO POINT living with another human being if u are not happy or satisfied .

    Cheers.

  • Sameera
    August 26, 2009 at 7:58 AM  

    Good post..!

    I broke my head over these issues for a long time now and now this is where I stand:

    > It totally depends on your situation age and stage in life to decided whether you need a man in your life or not.

    Sometimes a ideal person might just show up when you thought nothing about a relationship and you might end up happy. (not my case.. just saying from what I have observed)

    There is nothing wrong with being single and it definitely doesn't make one lonely. ( eg: I am enjoying my single life.. 22yrs and so are many of my friends)

  • Kaka
    August 26, 2009 at 8:01 AM  

    @suga looking forward to more such arguments....check my new status...:P

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 8:53 AM  

    @ dirt : haha ... i tried to make it as short as i can :P ... the way i ended it is kinda practical so ... well... there is a possibility tht it mite upset u :D

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 8:56 AM  

    @ Hary : yeah I agree ... it certainly is a matter of upbringig n family background... bt tht typical behaviour tht ur 30 u shud get married nw pisses me off :)
    n sure shall catcha soon !!!

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 8:58 AM  

    @ F8hasit : hey m glad tht I wrote it at this tym wen smeone needed such thoughts ... thanks for appreciating :) have a happy life :)

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 9:02 AM  

    @ Indian : Thanks for the appreciation ... :)

    @ sameera : great observation ... life wud be much happy if ppl are nt bound to a certain age or relation to get engaged or married for tht matter...

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 9:02 AM  

    @ kaka : lols :P

  • Anita Sharma
    August 26, 2009 at 10:06 AM  

    Ha! I totally agree! It's pointless being with someone just for the sake of it, because you feel alone. Theres that saying isn't there, "the lonliest place to be is in a crowd" - Being with someone doesn't automatically get rid of our lonliness, and if it's with the wrong person, feeling lonely isn't the only emotion you'd feel!

    Anu xxx

  • ♥ ♥ Vinnie ° ♥ ♥
    August 26, 2009 at 10:29 AM  

    awesome yaar..
    few momnts ago i was much much wierder than m feeling now.
    xoxo

  • Shruti
    August 26, 2009 at 11:04 AM  

    very very different!!
    i was stunned with your analysis!
    U have a great blog here girl!!
    U r rocking eh!!

    keep smiling!

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    August 26, 2009 at 11:25 AM  

    @ Anu : wo man ... awesome quote ... loved it ... thanks for sharing :)
    keep smiling :)


    @Vinnie and @ Shruti : hey thanks so much for appreciating :)

  • Vipul Grover
    August 26, 2009 at 12:16 PM  

    Hey sugandha.. u've touchd a topic about which i myslf introspct a lot these days.. Whn i was single, i wantd 2 b in a relationship bt wn i got in2 it i wantd 2 move out of it.. I myslf hav strtd realizing now tht i mite not b cmfrtable 2 b in a relation as it sumhow divides ur attention, takes away ur initiative n creativity.. well, still thrs time lft b4 i gt in2 a social obligation 2 gt in2 a prmannt relation.. atleast till thn i cn postpone thinking about it:)

  • Steve. x Mark. x Runciman
    August 26, 2009 at 3:20 PM  

    I think it all depends on the individual really. Some people love their own company and are happy on their own. Others crave interaction.

    Great blog by the way, just stumbled upon it :) Very intersting ! You write well :)

    W/b XxX

  • Cyrus Rumi
    August 26, 2009 at 6:11 PM  

    Hi Suga:)

    A very interesting post...we are all unique and deal with life situations differently...that's the beauty...that's life...

    Have a great day!:)

    Namaste to you, little sister.

    Cyrus

  • vaibhav
    August 26, 2009 at 11:54 PM  

    while i was reading ur post, I was like..girl writes pretty well.. n the next thing I did was looking at the followers section..n no wonder its jam packed with people...

    hope to see you arnd.. tc n keep blogging... :)

  • Zabi
    August 27, 2009 at 12:11 AM  

    I cannot totally agree with u. I know it is good to be single but after a point of time it leads to loneliness. When single, one can have many friends but to the same friends he just ends up being one among many friends. You always need one person in life whom you know will be when you need him. Ofcourse, one shud be careful and lucky enough to not to choose the wrong person but that is definitely not an excuse for not committing to somebody.

    One can be single as long as he is pleased about it but when loneliness comes haunting its better not to be.

  • Ekam
    August 27, 2009 at 1:03 AM  

    A topic very close to my heart. Being lonely and alone. A huge difference between these 2 words.But people generally don't understand it

  • Harnett-Hargrove
    August 27, 2009 at 2:50 AM  

    Point well made and taken. -Jayne

  • Rajkumar
    August 27, 2009 at 3:14 AM  

    i like to be lonley in my home but dont like to be lie that outside my place..........

  • Sid 'Ravan' Kabe
    August 27, 2009 at 7:16 AM  

    Well, suga....living with a companion is neighbor a social responsibility nor a compulsive bond..
    it is completely and solely a individual responsibility...if you wish to marry...go on, wanna live in...you can...or stay single...is possible...

    it will take a little more steps on courage to go against your parent and family thought...
    :)
    Cheers

  • Together We Save
    August 27, 2009 at 8:14 AM  

    Great post. There is a big difference in lonely and alone.

  • Saad Shaikh
    August 28, 2009 at 5:14 AM  

    I don't know what to comment.. I am myself confused about this.. but I believe, at some point in life one does feel the need of a companion.. at an emotional level as well as at a physical level.. until that level comes in one's life, 'alone' is the word for him/her..

    btw, you've used the word 'solitude'.. I love solitude.. and its completely different from the word lonely :)

    Loneliness is the poverty of it.. and Solitude is the richness of it.. :)

  • Harini
    August 28, 2009 at 8:36 AM  

    Even if you have a perfect life with best of best friends, happening career and blah blah. Even you have the best of life, you will still need some one at the end of the day you can connect with. Your friends will always be there but they cant fill the space of that someone special. You need that someone to connect with on every level. But just to have someone special you cant be with a wrong person. At the same time when you find the right person you have to do all you can to keep them in your life as it wont be complete without them.. I think i cant handle more than this so i better end it here :P.

  • Atulya
    August 28, 2009 at 10:14 AM  

    very well put.. uve put all my thoughts in words in the last two paragraphs..
    "Is it really necessary to have a partner or companion for life "
    the answer is NO..

    Having found myself on both sides(single and coimmitted) at some point of time, I say that each has its own advantages and disadvantages. But now i really question whats wrong with being single.. I say nothing at all..
    I find friendship a lot more satisfying at this point of time than being in a serious relationship..

    by the way thanks for the follow..!

    Tc

  • Shruti
    August 29, 2009 at 5:46 AM  

    suga,hi :)
    Check out my recent post

  • wecognize
    August 29, 2009 at 6:32 AM  

    Hi Sugandha, I agree with you :) Lonely and alone are completely two different states of being. I also agree that one need not feel compelled to marry (or for anything for that matter). I have long held this view. When talking about the ideal match - it depends upon what is the definition of an Ideal match in the head of the concerned person. If it means finding someone who is just like one and agrees with one in all that one says.. then yes, there can be no ideal matches. But

    I view ideal match as a person who is most fit for me given the way he is and given the way I am. Also, the match in terms of the psychological personalities that we are. The two people should be complimentary to each other.

    I applaud for you as you say that life is worth spending for someone in need :)

    - I am Niharika.

  • Mishika
    August 29, 2009 at 6:56 AM  

    Really well written. Its great too know that not all people see being alone as being lonely. I am alone, of that I'm sure, but I'm definitely not a loner.
    And after having my share of relationships, its very satisfying to know that I'm better of being my way.

    Cheers,
    Mishika

  • mAhEsH KaLaAL
    August 29, 2009 at 9:37 AM  

    I am not lonely, but feeling alone....
    I am not alone, but feeling lonely....
    may be its the matter of mind and brain in and the context they are in.

  • R S
    August 29, 2009 at 10:41 AM  

    I personally feel that everyone in this world has an emotional outlet and we need a partner to absorb all that comes out of it. You feel light when you throw out the rumblings inside which by the way are useless for the outside world and mind you you can't dare share everything with anyone arbit...


    btw..it was a really nice read and on the whole the blog seems excellent..so i have tagged your blog and hope you will spare some of your time and visit mine

  • rimz
    August 29, 2009 at 9:57 PM  

    ohh dear, i just loved ur dis piece..I too have d same query n I was in confusion wid the same thing.I biliv d fact so i loved the line: "A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life.".

  • Rajesh
    September 2, 2009 at 3:13 PM  

    I'm saddened to see this blog and the comments of young ladies. I'll try to explain.

    I know most of you are in your twenties, got a new identity in the world, want to break the traditional mold, charter a new path. Most of you consider the advice of your parents and other elders as outdated and fantasize American life style. I too used to think like that, about 22 years ago, when I was 21, just graduated from IIT, full of new ideas etc. Being somewhat traditional I gave in to my parents and married traditionally. Long story sort, I ended up in Silicon Valley, USA and what I have seen in last decades is other side of the glittering coin, which can be realized only after seeing the suffering, pain, loneliness prevalent here. Here no one trusts anyone else, even husband and wife have separate bank accounts, relations are very shallow. Divorce rate is more tan 50%, people want love but can't get lasting one. They try to use all materialistic means to find love and happiness but it's short lived.

    Now I realize the value of traditional Indian marriage, based on life long trust, unconditional love, innocent love of kids, true marital bliss. Some time I think, there is a reason god created men and women, they are complimentary, one can not be happy without the other.

    I shudder to imagine, what would have happened if I had not obeyed my parents, followed a path of being single, most of you are promoting now.
    This is the path followed by most here already. It gives lot of fun, pleasure and thrill while you are young, beautiful or have money, but there things are short lived and life after these is very horrible. You suffer silently as there is no one your own. No one blogs or writes or make movies about you as that won't sell.

    My neighbor is old, single, no wife, no kids, no one to talk to, no one to look after him, no one own to take. He hired some service to help him. I also help him some time.

    Ladies, do you want life like that, or a life full of happiness, with loving and caring husband, home filled with lively kids and all other joys and bliss of married life.

    Time is short, don't waste it too long to decide. I know, I may sound like your parents but even if I can save one lady from ruining her life after reading this all, I'll be very very happy.

    Let me know if I can help any one in any way. you can email me at rajesh94538 at gmail dot com

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 2, 2009 at 3:34 PM  

    @ Rajesh : Well Mr. Rajesh ... I agree wid u n respect ur views... I or rather I shud use the word we the generation of today or 20 smthn bloggers... really understand the value of relationships... wat I am tryin to say here is... it is better to be alone rather to be wid a rong person ... n not to yell just because u do not have a boyfrnd... and abt marrige n kids ...well its great if the husband or wife is lovin n caring ... bt if we hooked up wid rong person it may spoil our life n other persons too ... n kids too ofcrse ... we all kno the fites b/w a couple harm the kids n their psychology... nd it depends upon the way one lives his life ...I have seen many singles livin life happily...my uncle is single n has opened a old age home ... he is livin a happy life n oso helpin others ...the parents whuz children left thm coz they gt married to smeone hu didnt want to liv wid guys parents... But ya if u still thnk m wrong here ... I have no prob spreadin ur email to the ladies or gents ... may be u can help thm :)...I didnt mean to offend ppl here ... bt only if they read the post wid positive thoughts ...

  • Rajesh
    September 2, 2009 at 4:40 PM  

    @Sugandha

    Wow, that was prompt reply. I thought you are in Delhi and fast asleep :)

    You are thinking exactly the way ladies who have gone through few break up think here. They loose hope and think it's better to stay alone or may be live in.

    This whole concept of having to find and keep boyfriend is flawed and just opposite to the traditional Indian system. Due to pressure to keep boyfriend, many girls give in to advances of boys and that's where the problem starts. The strength in these relations is like tape, very strong first time but weakens after few times. That's where lies the beauty of traditional Indian marriage, the bond is first and last and grows with time. In boyfriend style, the bond is weakened substantially after few break ups.

    I still think you are wrong about one should live alone. Some single may look like living happily but in reality they got used to it. They have not experienced real happiness.

    Why do you think you'll get wrong person. Yes, you'll certainly get the wrong person if choose form this 20 something Indian born Americanized type. Chose some one who has moral values and character. I think your parents will find the best one. If you still need more details how to find one I'll happy to help about what to see in such person.

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 2, 2009 at 4:58 PM  

    @ rajesh : haha ... yeah m very much in Delhi ...bt i sleep by 9 or so n get up by 3.30
    n abt the break ups ... haha ... u r jus makin assumptions here ... I never had a relationship :P till yet atleast :P
    abt indian traditional system ... well women have their own identity these daz ... so its nt jus adjusments n sacrifice or cookin ... its more thn tht ...
    i didnt say one "shud" live alone btw ... read the post carefully ... its a personal choice...m no one to tell ppl ... du ths or tht ... may be u shud read the post more carefully ...n neither i thnk i will get a rong person ... i said there are many cases where marriges du nt wrk ... love or arranged wateva !!!its ones perspective tht matters abt life, love n everthn ... n abt teh details on what to c in a person ... well i have my views n my choices on tht ... let me be!!!

  • Rajesh
    September 2, 2009 at 5:30 PM  

    @Sugangha

    Lol! I see, looks like you work overnight. I was not saying you have gone through breakup, just thinking like one.

    I think you have firm views and I respect that and who am I to suggest anything. Traditional Indian systems doesn't mean giving up your identity.

    May be after 20-30 years you'll realize that traditional Indian system has value and can give lasting peace and happiness, something which is fast disappearing in western system and I can see the reason. Unfortunately our young generation is going the same way. I'm just trying to save few souls from this painful path as I'm seeing the suffering everyday here. One of my friend, Steven, whose wife left him after 18 years is in tears and now wants to find a lady with Indian values which is becoming more and more rare now.

  • Roshmi Sinha
    September 3, 2009 at 2:37 AM  

    Nice read... this one.

    But then, life is so much better if one finds their soulmate...

  • Lakshmi Rajan
    September 3, 2009 at 6:19 AM  

    Being single should not be guaranteed for being lonely nor being married be guranteed for being happy. It all depends on the state of mind. One can be single but still happy and vice versa. At the end of the day , even if you are married , you are single as an individual and can get lonely in expectations .. so loneliness is a state of mind affected by various variables of life.

  • Rajesh
    September 3, 2009 at 8:33 AM  

    @Yellow Tulip

    So you feel life is worthless after being used and dumped by someone! Welcome to the glittering American lifestyle. This is just beginning, life is going to be much more painful by blindly following american lifestyle, get used to it.

    Is there a better way, yes there is but most of you have too westernized mindset and thought process to change. I feel really sad to see so many lives being ruined by blindly following western lifestyle and that too in India.

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 3, 2009 at 8:49 AM  

    @ Rajesh : seems ur after life of the younger generation ... nice nice carry on ... i hav started enjoyin nw :P

  • Rajesh
    September 3, 2009 at 10:44 AM  

    @Sugangha

    May be I should make slight correction to what you said. I'm not after the life of young generation, I'm after improving or saving lives of younger generation :)

    One week ago I went to Mount Madonna Center here in California and what pleasantly surprisesd to see that it's not only run by americans but all of them follow life style even traditional Indians don't follow any more.

    Remember these are the same americans who lived the western life style, suffered and are now finding solace in traditional Indian life style. Look at the photos of hanuman jayanti 08 and see for yourself.

    http://hanumanfellowship.org/index.php?option=com_wrapper&Itemid=72

    This is what I want to convey to our young generation that they are chasing a mirage while the oasis is in their own backyard.

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 3, 2009 at 11:04 AM  

    @ Rajesh : It's not Sugangha ... it's Sugandha ... or may be u can call me Suga if u cant remember such a long name ...
    n good effort ... keep on trying :)

  • Rajesh
    September 3, 2009 at 11:24 AM  

    Sorry Sugandha, it was typing mistake. I like your full name better, it's very meaningful and means fragrance. Did you look at the photos? Somehow the link didn't came out right. I'll try again.

    Mount Madonna Center

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 3, 2009 at 11:27 AM  

    well i will check the snaps :)

  • Rajesh
    September 3, 2009 at 3:17 PM  

    I took this photo at Mount Madonna Hanuman Temple.

    Hanuman Temple

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 6, 2009 at 1:45 PM  

    @ Rajesh : Hie :)
    m sorry to reply late ...
    I saw the piks ... those are beautiful ... A pik titled INDIA '09 is my personal favourite :)
    The innocence and natural beauty of tht small girl made my heart go aww :)
    Thanks so much much for sharing :)
    take care !!!

  • Rajesh
    September 8, 2009 at 10:45 AM  

    @Sugandha

    Thanks for liking the picks. What is your openion about the Hanuman Jayanti 08 picks?

    Is the email shown on your blog correct? I sent you one email.

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 8, 2009 at 12:49 PM  

    @ Rajesh : My blog doesnt ahve my email id newhere ... I dunno which email r ya talkin abt !!!

  • The Aspirant
    September 8, 2009 at 12:51 PM  

    well u knw its actually tday dat we feel dere is no need of a soulmate....wad d fact is dat we r quite enrgyful tday nd hv lot to xpore in dis world...we think dat dere's lot to do nd dats y we dunt feel d need.....but we really need to sum1 to share all dose pleasent xperiences as well as unpleasant xperiences.....though ppl regret d fcat nw coz we r surrounded by many ppl nd frnds tday but aftr sumtym many vl b bsy in deir own individual lyfs nd dus cant b dere fr us, at dat tym we feel wad actually a soulmate is meant for....though thinkings may vary but no matter hw much we holiday nd roam in d whole wrld, we alwaz want a place to be back in called "Home" wid sum1 who really cares dat we r back.........

    cheers

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 8, 2009 at 1:41 PM  

    @ Rajesh : there is a contact button on the left ... u can mail me by using tht .... sugndha.suji one isnt wrkin nemre

  • http://whysoserioustoday.blogspot.com
    September 9, 2009 at 1:29 AM  

    @ Rajesh : hie got ur mail ...
    good to kno ur views bt I guess i can not help u ... as I du not have ne prob. wid ths where the youth is heading n all ... we are young n confident n are not scared of change ... so plz accept my apologies ...
    Thanks,
    Suga

  • Lincoln
    October 28, 2009 at 1:23 AM  

    these are ur thoughts at this moment of time, things change a lot over a period of time :)

  • Gopal Krishna
    April 6, 2010 at 5:24 PM  

    Suga, like many educated babies, you are also showing deep thinking in early 20s. One who can find joy within will never need to look for it outside. This is what I have personally realized through daily practice of meditation for last 7-8 years. But, may I add - only a person who has established his/her character based on twin principles of brahmacharya and meditation, will rise high and enjoy bliss through a single life. Rest barring few exceptions like Newton will find only troubles and degradation of character like one can find in Western world.

    I decided to enjoy a single life and had to break the heart of my family members. I guess, being more senti, babies will find it difficult to deal with persistent emotional appeals from family members, but may be, they can keep Mother Teresa, Anandamayi Maa, Sarada Devi, etc as their role-models and decide to remain single. My full support to all genuine singles (who are brahmacharis) but not to those who are in live-in business because of lack of inner purity and spiritual discipline. Man can rise to be a god as well as fall below a beast - need not be told how much difference is there between a Vivekananda and a live-in chap. But, due to loads of rajasic passions, fools understand the importance of self-restraint only after falling victim to diseases and depression. My only objection to live single crowd is their inability to follow brahmacharya and live with the freedom of dogs/pigs. Spiritual discrimination is not present in many people of live single crowd.

    Spiritual souls can find loads of resources on my blog: HERE>

    Thanks,
    Gopal

  • pRasad
    June 24, 2010 at 4:50 AM  

    Depends from Individual to individual. But I liked your views..

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