August 25, 2009
Sometimes...I wonder what people mean when they say they are single and lonely. I have always believed, being lonely and being alone are two different statements altogether. Though, being alone is momentary, loneliness gives you a feeling of solitude for life.
In one of the stories of Times of India, I have read about a man who sits in his rocking chair nursing a scotch every evening when the dusk sets in, listening to an old Mohd. Rafi's song ...Dekhi zamaane ki yaari, bichde sabhi baari baari...in his calm surrounding with a sense of peace and a day well spent. No broken hearts here, but a man unwinding after a day at work. His book lying next to his pillow, the way he left it last night and a collection of around 2500 DVDs to choose from.
On the other hand a single women is a busy professional, juggling career and home, handling her life and loving it the way it is, with the guarantee that there's no place in her life for any man.
Both the stories make me wonder if the characters are lonely or alone. Is it necessary to plan our whole life with one person or it's just a social responsibility? Can we lead a peaceful life all alone just being ourselves and doing things we want to do once we set our mind to it?
A time when we stop wandering and settle down just for ourselves or our dreams wrapped in a secure life and comfortable around ourselves. Would that be a selfish or self-centered existence or freedom. Living our life to the fullest and wishing to make every dream come true, and the best of our existence.
I remember how I reacted after reading a statement (There's nothing called ideal match) on a fellow blogger's blog today. I got offended and told him I did not like the statement, but now I wonder only if he was all wrong. A feeling of single hood not only gives you a sense of freedom but also a peaceful and fulfilled life.
Movies, books, music, arts, hobbies, travelling, social work, friends and lots of dreams ~ life has hell lot of variety it seems that might limit itself because of many adjustments and sacrifices done in a relationship. Is it really necessary to have a partner for life or the emptiness can be filled with a large number of friends and variety of things that leave no space for one's other half.
A single person is free to pick and choose as many individuals as friends or to connect with the whole human species with no boundaries to set in. Sometimes, people you share some magical moments with become the most cherished memory of your life, much more important than the one you spend your whole life with.
Just because someone is alone does not mean he is lonely and with so many things to explore in this beautiful life, there's no chance to get bored. Rather we can devote our lives in helping those in need, those who have nothing. Isn't someone who cares and loves people but not bound to any one person is much better than the one with a companion but not satisfied and happy with their life?