July 25, 2009

"When I was a child, I wanted to draw like an adult.
When I became an adult, I always wanted to draw like a child."

These are the words of the famous artist Pablo Picasso. When I first heard my father recite these words, I was around 8 and at that time, I didn't quite see much logic in it. Now, 13 years later, I have understood the meaning of these words like never before. 

My passion for various things might have evolved over the years, from books to music to tennis to Science, but there is still a part of me that longs for that old love for art and my childhood days, when even if you make a rectangular shape orange your parents and teachers appreciated it.

This life has got something for everyone and as they say "we all have a purpose here." But it's sad when we see people in Rehabs or spending life like they are living in hell. Failing to meet expectations, the feeling of being alone even when among family and friends, and the constant pressure to perform well but not succeeding.

It feels strange when I hear teenagers committing suicide because of studies, failure in life or betrayal from friends, and it feels even more strange when people say, the person must be weak to commit an act as childish as suicide. Well, they can never understand the real circumstances. I have always believed that we all are worth something, not necessarily a Doctor, Engineer or a Pilot but a different, still, an equally important identity. 

But when people around you stop believing in your abilities (not necessarily by saying so), you too, soon, stop believing in yourself. And when someone suddenly says or does something to show that they have faith in your capabilities, you are both OVERWHELMED and SCARED to the point of just wanting to give up on everything. Overwhelmed that here you have a person who believes in you, and scared that you just might let them down too.

The pressure of society not only forces a child to end his life but also to lose that special ability and identity. I do not know how many(if any) parent(s) will read this article but I really want to request them all, that instead of comparing your child with their cousins or friends or anybody for that matter, you may please appreciate their abilities and support them in something they are best at... like you did during their childhood days... and tell them you are there. Even if they are not like someone you have wanted them to be!!!

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34 Comments: to “ REVISIT LIFE!!!

  • Fallen Angel
    July 25, 2009 at 6:57 AM  

    :( * sigh*

    Tch , i wanna say so much ....
    I am at a loss of words ( i'll probably write a blog on this soon )....

    I totally agree with u , parents need to be supportive for their children ...they should love them for what they are .

  • Jaideep Sobti
    July 25, 2009 at 7:36 AM  

    True. Well written.

  • MultiMenon
    July 25, 2009 at 8:35 AM  

    Suicides and the like are the acts of cowardice and parents who compare their children with every tom dick and harry deserve to be shot at!!

    Why cant someone be himSELF/herSELF?? Duh!

    Nice realisation gal(I don't see ur name here on the profile.. )


  • Anonymous
    July 25, 2009 at 8:39 AM  

    Nice post Suga...quite unlike you to be so Serious. It's very well written!

  • Sumit
    July 25, 2009 at 8:48 AM  

    A very mature thought... I wish more folks thought this way, instead of burdening their wards with their expectations.

  • Americanising Desi
    July 25, 2009 at 9:14 AM  

    Fallen Angel said it right!

    and wow, you write... OHHH YOU WRITE SO WELLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!

  • numerounity
    July 25, 2009 at 9:40 AM  

    True! :)

  • peter
    July 25, 2009 at 9:53 AM  

    Life is a vague route for some people, they just fail nd surrender while some people enjoy the ride and even if they fail they dun regret it at all.

  • Saad Shaikh
    July 25, 2009 at 9:53 AM  

    wow.. every word makes so much sense.. I really feel parents should read this..

    and the thing about comparing.. very true.. it happens all the time..

    well written.. :)

    July 25, 2009 at 11:20 AM  

    @ Nikhil ... hey thanks alot n my name is Sugandha ;) ... its there on the blog ...left sidebar

    July 25, 2009 at 11:21 AM  

    and thank you so much everyone ... thanks alot ... it feels great wen ppl appreciate your wrk ... thank u :)

  • Vanity in L♥v
    July 25, 2009 at 11:23 AM  


    You know wot...
    There is a phase in everyone's life when every one has to suffer this.
    We all might say ...we do not care bout what "they" think bout us.
    But somewhere we do...!!
    Bass itna sa fark hai..
    kisi ko zaada farak padta hai..kisi ko kamm..

    July 25, 2009 at 12:01 PM  

    @ Vanity
    thank you so much ... cundn't agree more :)

  • Vipul Grover
    July 25, 2009 at 1:16 PM  

    a very mature post sugandha.. succinct nd well written.
    bt yeah about suicides, my view is contrary 2 urs.. only weak ppl comit suicide, i may sympathise thm bt wont empathise. ofcourse sch an act is commitd under gr8 pressure and noone is immune 2 it. bt wn u buckle under this pressure, u r logically weak nd nuthing else!

    July 25, 2009 at 1:59 PM  

    @ Vipul :Well u r not alone .. many ppl think the same...I used to feel same before I intervied few DRs. and Children.. bt u c its much more deep ...a weak cannot commit an act like suicide ... u need so much a heart of stone ... we are all social animals and we all need love n warmth ...n esp children.. infact I think u will understand this fact even better ... coz u help and visit those special children ... n thts coz u understand the importance of warmth n love n care... being lonely isnt easy ... n we know that ...

  • Hopeless Romantic
    July 25, 2009 at 4:47 PM  

    Its true how society drives young kids, even though i must tell you, the exams have become easier now, there are much more counseling centers, there are much more stress on practical applications than route learning. But still suicides keep on happening, and at some level we all are responsible for it. Hope things changes !


  • rahul
    July 25, 2009 at 8:20 PM  

    really nice post and I agree parents now a days put hell of a lot of pressure on kids..their innocence has been robbed!!

  • Srivatsan
    July 25, 2009 at 9:10 PM  

    Suicide is a way of escape!
    Like how our lives influence in changing the world,so is the death!
    Suicide of a person in a family changes the course of lives of others in family!But its gonna be a bad change!
    At the times of mounted pressure and when we're facing a problem which cant be solved easily,we should just stay calm and wait to see the problem dissipating in air and pressure easing.It is the only way to prevent suicidal tendencies to enter into action!

    Nice post!
    (Everytime,i feel like ending up giving a lecture while commenting in your blog) :(

  • sreehari
    July 25, 2009 at 10:07 PM

    wud like to know ur opinions.. i m commenting only gals bcos if i get a gal to comment u indirectly hit d guys hehehe so plz co-operate ;) atleast consider d time i spent on it :D

  • Rohan
    July 26, 2009 at 12:48 AM  

    Ah can so relate to this, i ve gone through this comparision when a cousin used to get 90% and i used to get 65's and 70's in school :P

    He became a commerce graduate and i am a BE automobile engg plannin to study further :P lol

    And yes the world does try to bring you down, we should become numb and move on :D

    cheers :D

    PS: Why so serious ? Honda Jazz or the joker ? :P

  • ARJuna
    July 26, 2009 at 1:24 AM  

    I don't know if I replied to your comment on my blog http://worldofteenager.blogspot.combefore so I am doing it again just to make sure,
    Thank you for coming by my blog, I completely agree with your view, such problems exist mainly because practical applications are not utilised in our education system.

  • Vipul Grover
    July 26, 2009 at 5:13 AM  

    [b]a weak cannot commit an act like suicide ... u need so much a heart of stone ...[/b]
    point taken.. in d givn contxt.. um answerless:)

  • Ashish Sukhadeve
    July 26, 2009 at 10:09 AM  

    Very True, parents should stop comparing their kids with others. This makes them feel inferior, or rather we can say by doing this they are leading kids to opt for destructive activities.

    July 26, 2009 at 2:09 PM  

    @ Vipul : haha ... thanks !!!

  • U.Sidharth Bhat
    July 27, 2009 at 12:13 AM  

    Its very true how you said that kids somehow lose their belief in their own abilities as they grow into adults. I guess they give up on their dreams in return for 'safety' and 'being practical' and in the process kill that child inside that dreamt of the stars... guess reality really bites.. hard ..

  • One Bizarre Scribe
    July 27, 2009 at 11:14 AM  

    I say, jolly well-written! Been there n done that; so second the motion..

    PS: First time on the blog, pretty impressive. Keep up the good work, peace n light.. :)

  • Mari
    July 27, 2009 at 4:58 PM  

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  • Aki
    July 27, 2009 at 10:49 PM  

    Good 1...

  • Arun Kumar
    July 28, 2009 at 4:53 AM  

    hmmm.. good thought...
    made me nostalgic.... not the suicidal part.. :-)
    just the drawing when i was a child part... n the appreciation i got for those silly works..
    my parents dont do that anymore...

  • The Fox
    August 4, 2009 at 8:14 AM  

    Lol your post reminded me of this(esp the 1st paragraph)...

  • The Fox
    August 4, 2009 at 8:22 AM  

    Sorry for being "insensitive" in my last comment but if you go to that link, you would know why the post made me smile. it's soooo difficult to understand a child's mind, too complicated for a grown up.

    August 4, 2009 at 8:50 AM  

    @ Fox: hey nice :)
    i like the links :)

  • Madhu
    August 7, 2009 at 9:43 AM  

    Very many adults lack composure and overreact ; forethought and prescience in this strata that has seen life is acutely missing routinely. We see this on a daily basis..

    The post talks of ".. teenagers committing suicide.. ". Given very many adults could do better (the parents could do better as suggested by the author) we paint with a broad brush and call a troubled 14 year old a weakling ?

    It would do a wealth of good if these troubled kids get the help they need so they do not have to resort to this drastic step. But calling them "Weak" is adding to the fire.

    From elsewhere on the site :

    1. "..but I would be more thoughtful of all I say..."

    2. ".. a man has the right and obligation to look down at another man, only when that man needs help to get up from the ground ..."

  • Nitin
    September 26, 2009 at 10:48 PM  

    interesting. i do agree with the Overwhelming part

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